Parenting = S.U.P.P.O.R.T

There are a few things I feel most passionate about.

Christ.

Basketball.

Coffee.

Family.

Politics.

Besides being passionate for Christ and the things of God, one other tips the scale.

Parenting.

 

I don’t claim to “know it all”, but I’ve been graced with some wisdom, sprinkled with 20 years of experience and quite a personal history.  I take my JOB very seriously {as many do} and although it’s not always enjoyable, parenting IS rewarding.

“She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive.” Proverbs 31:27

 

Before I post my acronym for SUPPORT that keeps screaming at me to share, I must let you know, I am NOT perfect.  A lot of what I share is because I either messed it up OR watched someone else mess it up…in other words, trial & error.  And although I have a 20 year old, I am still parenting.  The age of your children matters not.  I think these things can be useful for adult children as well as toddlers.  And if you aren’t a parent, keep in mind {and heart}, there are always those who could use the help.

 

Here it goes.

Sow your children to God.  They belong to Him anyway so let go of some of the burden and invite Him in to help raise your kids.  We have encouraged our children to have their OWN personal relationship with God at an early age {but it’s never to late}.  At bedtimes, instead of saying “say your prayers”, we say, “talk to Jesus”.  Their relationship with God is the foundation for everything in life.  As my children have gotten older and gone through challenges, they have been able to lean on their own relationship with God and pray and seek the Lord for direction. Matthew 19:14 “But Jesus said, Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for such is the kingdom of heaven.”

 

Uplift them in their gifts, talents & character and guide them in that direction.  When my daughter Breezy was very young we could see her heart for people.  Not just any people, but those in need.  She was a peace maker, fair minded, and could see the best in everyone.  Through prayer, God’s leading and the right people, her heart grew for Evangelism & Missions work.  Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.”

 

Pray for your children regularly.  There is no greater responsibility {I think} than to keep your children before the Lord. There is always something out there vying for their attention.  And remember “somebody” prayed for you {even if you’re unaware.} I often think of my own childhood and even though my family didn’t know God, I KNOW “somebody” prayed for me.  Prayed for me to make right choices, my protection, my faith, etc.  I like to think of praying for my children as being their biggest cheerleaders.  Everybody needs one or two or three.  How much better this world would be if everyone had a cheerleader.  1 Samuel 1:27 “I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him.”

 

Protect them like you will have to answer for the job you did some day!  When I think of protect,  I see discipline. There was a time when it seemed as if every time I turned around I was on my son’s case about something.  He was in “trouble” on a regular basis. I remember telling him {and I still do}, “I am responsible for you and I will do what I see best for you.”  “There are just going to be things you cannot do, places you cannot go, and people who won’t be in your life.”  This job my friends is not for the weak.  It’s hard to say NO, but it’s even harder to watch them suffer the consequences on “my watch”. Proverbs 29:17 “Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.” 

 

Order.  This one goes hand in hand with PROTECT.  I would encourage you to look up the definition and then look at the antonyms. YIKES!  If there is NO order, parenting will NOT come easy at all.  If little Johnny has no bed time, you are just asking for trouble.  If your kids don’t respect you, there’s NO order.  If you and your spouse are rude to each other, NO order. If your adult children don’t speak, NO order.  It is so sad to see a child {even an adult} who has no boundaries, discipline or order.  It makes for a vicious cycle and an unruly society.  Sorry, it was a stinger for me too!! 1 Corinthians 14:40 “Let all things be done decently and in order.”

 

Reward them.  Ok, this one was a huge challenge for me years ago.  I grew up believing that you did what you were SUPPOSED to do no matter what.  Why would you get a reward for being responsible??  The closer I came to the Lord, the more I learned that HE is a rewarder.  I have learned that there is a balance with this and that bribes and rewards are not the same.  As well as “guilt gifts & love substitutions”, not rewards at all.  I’ve learned that my rewards a lot of times come in words, not purchases. Never the less, we all need to be rewarded at times and it’s a good thing.  Matthew 7:11 “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!”

 

Trust that you are adequate to be a parent.  God never gives us anything we cannot handle.  Let go of your fears.  Let go of any guilt you may have for “doing it wrong”.  I often tell moms who ask me about parenting, “If you don’t know what you’re doing, act like it!”.  Leaders aren’t leaders because they KNOW everything, they are leaders because they lead.  When you trust God to lead you, it is easier to lead your children.  Remember, he loves them MORE than you do. Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart. And lean not on your own understanding;”

 

There you have it… SUPPORT.  Might I add one more thing??  If you see someone “doing it right”, or bearing some fruit in this area, go to them, ask questions, seek advice.  There is always someone more seasoned than you.  I have always had my eye on at least one family that I could watch and learn from over the years.  After all if the fruit is ripe and juicy, they must be doing something right!

 

Meet My Fruit:

Jayson 15 & Bryana 19

Comments

  1. That is right on time Shannon! Thanks for sharing!!

  2. Breezymarie says:

    I love you mommy :) Thank you for your S.U.P.P.O.R.T. I sure did need it ;)

  3. Trinity Burbank says:

    This is so inspiring! Every parent should read this! Love it! Thank you for sharing this, Shan. : )

  4. What a beautiful post! So full of heart and truth and wisdom. Thank you for sharing. Your children are beautiful and I bet, are such a blessing to you and this world. Way to go Mom! I am your newest follower from MBC Christian Mom Bloggers.

    • Hi Linda! Thank you so much for stopping by! Your comments are so sweet and encouraging, thank you! I look forward to connecting more with you through MBC Christian Mom Bloggers. Headed your way now! :)

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